Sore Losers-A Sign of the Times?

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Sore losers; are they a sign of the times? I believe so. At least in the United States. We are living in a time when being a loser is unacceptable. We have all seen children, and adults, that quit or have a little temper fit if they are playing a game but not winning. They’ve never been taught to lose graciously. They are sore losers!

Today in children’s team sports everyone has to be a winner! No strikes. No outs. In some cases, no score! There are no losers, they must all be winners and receive a trophy at the end of the season. It is beyond ridiculous.

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Wake up people! Children are adults of the future. Parents are supposed to be preparing them to be responsible, contributing members of society. If they are taught throughout their formative years that everything they do is awesome & given accolades for even mediocre efforts what will motivate them to improve? They need to know that in the real world there are winners and there are losers. There will be disappointments and they need to be prepared that they will lose some of the time.

As adults they’re going to discover they’ll be competing with others for jobs, promotions, relationships, etc. How will they react when the object of their affection won’t give them a second look? What about when the boss doesn’t make a big deal or reward them for simply doing the job they’re being paid to do?

I try to do my best in everything I do. If I’m learning something new, I want honest feedback so I’ll know what I’m doing right and I can improve in areas needing improvement. I don’t want false praise but I appreciate honest, tactful encouragement. As a scrapper, I am grateful for tutorials & the helpful hints I’ve received along the way. They have helped me improve and I continue to learn new things all the time.

One of the things I’ve really enjoyed is being a scrapbook layout artist on several designers’ creative teams (CT’s). None of the teams required long term commitments and most of the designers were very nice when I decided to leave the team until…. About five months ago I left a CT I’d been on for a long time. Although it’s a volunteer position I wrestled with the decision for many days then my husband said, “What’s the big deal? You’re a volunteer!”. When I told the designer I was moving on she acted fine, but then I noticed some odd things started happening.

We had a secret group on Facebook for the team. I posted a note telling the other team members I’d enjoyed working with them but I was leaving to pursue other interests. Only a couple of people got to see the post or reply before she banned me from the group! A couple sent me private messages which I appreciated.

This designer had allowed me to design many items that were sold in her store and I was paid a commission. I had given her a month notice and told her I’d promote the items I’d made until the end of the month. In a few hours she responded by saying she had removed all of the items I’d designed. I checked and found more than twenty still in the store. I decided to promote one a day for the rest of the month. It would be a win/win for us both. I posted the first item but in less than an hour that item was deleted from the store. I tried again with a couple of more items and the same thing happened! So I just sent her a message with a list of all my designs that still needed to be deleted. Now it’s lose/lose. She lost a sale, I lost the commission.

Then I noticed in some other Facebook groups she no longer comments on any of my posts. She used to act like I was the best thing since panty hose but now she totally ignores me. And that is what made me think maybe she’s a victim of the current theory of child rearing that embraces “No Losers”.

Sore losers are rampant in our society now. When you rear generations of “every one’s a winner, there are no losers” the result is adults that act like children. They’re your BFF as long as you’re doing something for them but if that changes they hate you! Childish! Instead of wishing you well in your new pursuits, like a mature adult; they pout and say if you don’t want to play with me I’m never going to play with you again, pfsst! Grow up and quit acting like a sore loser.